Being Accepted is Difficult in Japan

by Dan Tomlinson
(Yamagata, Japan)

Being Accepted is Difficult in Japan




Isn't this just a sad fact of life about living in Japan? Acceptance
isn't as easy as I thought it would be. I've lived here for about 10
years now but still have a hard time listening to shouts of 'Gaijin',
especially from adults who should know better. Christ, I've been living
in this country a lot longer than most of the Elementary school kids
that still regard me as an 'outsider'. The other day, walking through
the throngs at the local festival, I must have heard at least 6 people
exclaiming 'Gaijin da', or 'whoahhh' as if they'd just come face to face
with a juggling monkey. I've never been stalked in shops but have had
store clerks (mainly convenience stores) comment on how fantastic my
Japanese was (if only this were true!) because I'd just said 'domo' or
'onegaishimasu' - what do they expect me to say? Up here, the locals
really can't comprehend the fact that foreigners find it easier to
communicate in Japanese.

What's one to do? Grin and bear it? I don't think so?



Originally posted to the Japan Living Forum


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It is not always easy!

by: Karen

Dan you are right! I struggle sometimes with folks who think they are helping me by speaking English...sometimes I just quickly switch it all to Japanese! Karen (www.insideoutsidejapan.com)

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Aug 27, 2015
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JAPAN ACCEPTANCE
by: Anonymous

I HAVE FRIENDS IN VARIOUS PREFECTURES. TOKYO IS LIKE NYC. VERY BUSY AND EVERYBODY IS TRYING TO GET THROUGH LIFE EVERYDAY AS BEST AS POSSIBLE. ITS A 24/7 ENVIRONMENT, WHERE AS KYOTO HAS A MORE RELAXED LIFE STYLE, AND HAMAMATSU IS TOTALLY LAID BACK. WONDERFUL COUNTRY. I LOVE AND AM LOOKING FORWARD TO 2016 TO STUDY AT TUJ. CHEERS

Aug 19, 2015
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acceptance in Japan
by: Rob

It's always frustrating attempting just to be normal in Japan. I am 48 and came to Japan when I was 17 yet every time I go someplace I get the same ridiculous questions and statements. Why are your eyes blue? How did you learn to use chopsticks so well? Your Japanese is amazing! I think you must learn as I have that you will never be accepted in a country that teaches every child the nail that sticks out gets hammered down. One day I hope Japan will be more open.

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